Domestic Violence Escalates When Kept a Secret

For most of these cases, getting help before violence occurs is the most obvious solution. Rarely does an incident begin with full blown violence. More commonly, the abuse begins with a flaring temper accompanied by throwing an object, a shove, or verbal meanness: serious clues that the anger behind these actions could escalate - and probably will.
But when a woman is in an all-out domestic battle zone, then she needs to extricate herself quickly, or face real injury, or even death. Most abusers don't have a stopping point. Violence occurs more frequently and with greater intensity as time passes.
The very best situation is for the woman to get out of the home or relationship. There is no substitute for simply leaving in order to protect herself and often the ones she loves. If there are still problems, she can issue a restraining order in hopes that the offender stays away. Unfortunately in too many cases, this is not effective. Rather the violent person becomes even more enraged by the legal barrier to his victim, and often breaks it nevertheless. In this case, it's a very good idea for a woman to know at least the basic self defense, and ways of avoiding her abuser.
Where ever the woman is, especially when she is alone, she can become the target of her attacker, and when the relationship is more personal in nature, often the abuser is willing to risk more to commit his crimes against her. It is imperative in these circumstances to seek help and to always be prepared.
A simple self defense class is a good way to start. If a woman knows the basics for how to defend herself in any situation, then she at least stands a chance of escaping an angry man who is stronger and larger than her. The sad fact is that often a restraining order does nothing to prevent further abuse. Some abusers even see a restraining order as a form of intimidation which is meant to weaken their hold on someone who they consider rightfully "belongs" to them. By this time, the danger is very real. Sadly, often only the woman knows how real the threat is to her safety. The police can do nothing for her at the immediate time of crisis, no matter how adamant she is that she is in danger.
The frustration of someone who is being stalked further adds to a sense of fear. The woman should take matters into her own hands by preparing for her own safety with self defense knowledge and by following other common pieces of advice ("never walk alone, etc"). The best way to avoid confrontation is to use one's intuition and basic common sense. Never give an inch where he could take a mile. Never believe that someone who has been violent in the past has changed his stripes. He hasn't. A relationship that was once abusive will always be abusive. It's important to never resume a sense of trust with someone who has broken it.
For the woman seeking advice in this area, she must rely on her own reason, and the help of others and maybe learn some self defense techniques. She should not assume that she strong enough to battle her abuser alone. For that is exactly where he wants her. Like schoolyard bullying, domestic violence thrives on secrecy and solitude.

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