Need to rekindle that spark in you marriage?

Retirement can either be an exciting milestone or a scary one. Whether you're looking forward to it or not, you still need to organize and makes some plans for this next part of your life. What would you like to do once you no longer have to report into your "day job" and who do you want to do it with? How about traveling to some of those places you only dreamed of during your working years? Or do you just want to stay home and relax? Or, is there something else that you wanted to do?

With retirement comes a completely different schedule for both you and your spouse. You now have the time to really pick and choose what you want to do with both your days and your evenings. At the same time, you may find that you now have too much time with your spouse and miss the "space" you had from one another while you were working. This lifestyle is both new and unusual and may require a period of adjustment. Not only do you have a lot of free time, you have a lot of free time with each other. For some, this has bee a problem but it doesn't have to be for you and your spouse.

Divorce statistics continue to rise steadily for people over 50. Many believe that the most common triggers for this are children leaving home or retirement. Couples start to feel they have nothing in common any more and marriages that have lasted for 30 years or more are come to an end. The good news is, you don't become another statistic. All you need is a some willingness to work as a team and a plan.

For a successful retirement life, create a plan for yourselves individually as well as a plan for what you want to do together. You have spent a number of years working hard, raising kids now is your time to enjoy and look back at all you did and also look forward to an even bigger and even more exciting future. In some cases, there may be some things that you always wanted to do for yourself such as learn some new skill or build that thing that you never really had time to do before. Whatever it is, put it down on your plan.

The plan of action works best when each person in the relationship has his and her own goals set as well as some mutual goals that are of interest to both of you. This can be any number of things and the best part of this is that the world is open to your imagination of wonderful ideas. Sit down together and help one another look at what each of you individually may not have yet done that you want to do individually as well as together. This is a terrific way to plan another chapter of your life with your spouse and to keep the sparks really flying.

The last half of our lives together is one which will be only as exciting as we make it and continue to be a team. The excitement will also come from respect and admiration to one another, care and consideration and helping one another to acquire that new skill, helping your spouse attend a class that he or she gave up years ago, or whatever it may be.

Communication always seems to play a key role in this or any plan. While working on these new goals together, issues may come up which have always been there but never voiced. Now that there is more time together, you both may find yourself wanting to open up about these points. By all means, have a relationship with some spark to it. You will find that both of you will benefit from open and honest communication. However, that doesn't mean that you stop being a sincere friend. You will need to listen with "open ears" to make this work. You may not like some of the topics, but they may be important to your spouse. Take the time (you have plenty now) and be a true friend. Listen and let one another grow in this new era of your lives. Not only will the next phase of your life be fun and exciting but it can be a learning experience as well.

While you may want the look you had back in your 20's, most of you would probably not trade what you know now for those young and wild years. Those experiences have benefits, are what makes "maturity", and are a key point in being a wonderful spouse.

So go ahead and put a "spark" into your marriage! You just may find that your relationship is better than ever and you can have a new adventure going through the rest of your lives, hand-in-hand, kicking up your heels.

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Tina Turbin is a children's published author, writer, researcher, humanitarian and mom. Working for many years with children in the Entertainmanet Business and raising three talented and successful children with her husband, Tina has always been an advocate for families, women's issues, health and nutrition as a way to improve the quality of lives and health for others.

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