Turning Your Relationship Break Up into a Relationship Make Up

If you've experienced a break up and you want your ex back, you might think you've already tried everything you can to get them back... But don't give up your hope quite yet! Here I'll talk about some excellent steps you can take to begin the process and start to get your ex back!

In a separate article I talked about how using positive thinking can really help you to begin the process of getting your ex back into your arms. It does this by creating a sense of "hope" in your mind, rather than reinforcing the painful feelings that you're probably experiencing at this time. As I said, we are using our minds all the time, and what we focus on with passion and energy actually expands, so we might as well actively put our thoughts into focusing on and expanding what we "want" rather than what we "fear"!

But, I also stated that just sitting around and thinking about how to get your ex back into your life won't make it a reality. You need to use your thought processes to motivate you to take the necessary actions that have the potential to win your ex back into your arms and your life forever!

I have outlined below some great positive action steps that you can take... Most people mess this up a bit because often, what feels like the most necessary thing for us humans to do to get our ex back, can be the very thing that pushes our ex even further away!

Here are some important first steps:

1. Put some time and space between you and your ex

Often people find themselves wanting to communicate with their ex lover, either by text messaging, or email or even by showing up where they work. This is one of the worst things you can do at first if your goal is to get your ex back! In fact, it can actually go completely against what you want and create resentment in your ex. So avoid doing this, even though you will probably want to stay in touch with them.

Yes, I know it can sound odd to not communicate with your ex if you want them back, but think about it: No one really wants to be with a "clingy" and "needy" person, and I'm sure your ex is no different!

By giving yourself some space and not appearing overly needy, you actually take your own power back and reclaim your self respect and your confidence! Show your ex that you're someone who is self-respecting. Someone that they will actually "choose" to be with! Focus on taking time out for you, and just being yourself (even with your painful feelings). Besides, you want your ex to "want" to be back with you without you having to pretend to be something that you're not! Who you are is absolutely worthy of being loved!

Often, the trouble is that at the start of a new relationship (and again, especially after a relationship break down) most of us actually try to be "what we think our ex wants us to be", which, of course is never actually what they want... And it also comes across as totally artificial! So practice just being yourself, because you are okay exactly as you are! And, if your ex doesn't want you back when you're being yourself, then you might actually be better off without them! Because trying to be someone else for your entire life is a hard road to take and a lot of work!

2. Take time out and spend it with other friends

Make some time to connect with your other friends, but make sure you avoid using this time to reinforce your loss or making it all about your pain and sadness. While it's understandable that you're in pain, and that you need some support from friends, you also want to make sure you allow yourself time to actually re-engage with life and put some distance between you and your painful feelings. And this means connecting with other friends and finding ways to laugh and have fun with them (despite your sadness).

3. Add something new to your life

Give yourself the gift of adding something new to your life. This might be a new project or a hobby that you've always thought you might like to do but put off until now. Or it might even be as simple as a new haircut or a new look. Don't make giant decisions, such as changing careers because decisions like that are best made when you're not processing pain from a break up. But deliberately add something new to your daily or weekly schedule that makes you feel good about yourself. Think of it like giving yourself a gift and loving yourself in the way that you'd like others to love you.

Each of these steps will create some breathing space and distance for you. They may all feel a little weird because the things we habitually do are more likely to reinforce and build the pain and sadness, rather than get past it. And if we want to be back with our ex it feels strange to give them space and distance! But I guarantee you that these types of steps are far more advantageous than you can know right now.

There will definitely be a time to start to talk to your ex lover again, but for now, consider these as positive first steps you can take that will start the process of beginning a new relationship between yourself and your ex.

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