Why Domestic Violence Hurts Everyone

Let's first look at the obvious person hurt by this abusive relationship - the woman being abused. (There are some cases where the male is the one being abused, but the woman in the relationship is the victim far more times than the man.) Usually the victim is too ashamed, too afraid, too guilt-ridden, too beaten down to even consider telling anyone about her situation. She has bruises on the outside she explains away as running into a "door" or some other inanimate object. She has bruises on the inside that may only heal with years of therapy. She may think she is the only one experiencing this, that somehow she deserves it and he isn't hurting anyone else, so she'll just go on with her life pretending it will get better. How is this hurting her?
1. She is losing or has already lost her self-esteem and any sense of purpose for her life.
2. She has a false hope that things will get better so she stays in the abusive situation and continues to get beaten down or worse.
3. Her job performance drops and she has to take sick days.
4. She is being damaged physically and mentally, leaving lasting effects.
5. She has stopped communicating with her friends and is kept isolated from them by restrictions put on her phone use, her financial allowance, threats that keep her "under control".
6. She may be in danger of losing her life, whether she stays in the relationship or whether she leaves.
And yet, she doesn't report the beatings to the police. She doesn't talk about it with her friends. She doesn't think they notice. But they do and they hurt for her. Domestic violence hurts everyone.
Another obvious sector of the population hurt by this abuse are the children of the victim. In some cases the children are not physically hurt themselves, but they witness the abuse of their mother and listen to her screams, unable to protect her. Boys in this type of living condition are more apt to grow up to be abusers themselves. It is what they have learned. They are following the example their father set for them. It is hard-wired into the sons that this is the way to treat women. So the violence does not stay within the family immediately effected by it. It goes on and on from generation to generation in a vicious cycle. And many times the children within an abusive home situation are abused themselves - physically, sexually, emotionally and spiritually. It is hurting everyone.
The cost of partner violence to the tax payers, insurance companies and individuals exceeds $5.8 billion every year, with $4.1 billion of that used directly for medical and mental health services for the victims who seek help or are helped through some form of intervention. And this is not covering those who are too afraid to seek help. Many injuries are left to heal on their own. It is hurting everyone.
The silent victims less considered in an abusive family are the pets. Many times an abusive husband or partner will threaten to hurt or kill the family pet if the spouse leaves. Many times the pet is kicked, hit, or otherwise abused as well as the partner and the children. If a woman can't take her beloved dog with her if she were to leave her partner, she will stay in order to protect the dog. Sometimes the dog is her only ally. To leave her behind to endure abuse or death is unthinkable. Yes, domestic violence is hurting everyone.
Women, children, pets, businesses, friends, tax payers, future generations. We are all hurt by it. We can't keep quiet and hope it goes away. It won't. We need to speak out, find ways to help, bring justice to those violated, prosecute those responsible for the damage done, and throw out our fear of getting involved. We are already involved and we need to somehow put an end to the endless cycle.

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